The Third Wheel


So you’re a “third wheel”.

Society has really made this into a picture of someone who is by themselves while their friend is sitting their all over their girlfriend/boyfriend.  It is mostly– if not, always– looked at in a negative light.  It’s no secret that when everyone around you looks at something negatively, then it will be a negative thing towards you also.  Even though being a “third wheel” is really no fun, I wanted to try and get people to look at it from a different perspective.  I have a slightly different view.

So I did some research {that sounds better than Google} and found some thoughts that average American people had about being a Third Wheel:

1.) Being a third wheel is kind of like turning a bike into a tricycle, you’re only there to make it appropriate for kids to be alone.

2.) Being a third wheel makes me feel like I was only invited out of pity.

3.) Being a third wheel makes me feel like a spare tire– worthless.

Okay, so those are the three I picked out of a whole bunch of descriptions.  Take note that all of the thoughts I found about being a third wheel were never positive.  I honestly have a few problems with the descriptions that I have stated above, and would like to talk about it some in detail.

Example #1:  I personally believe that it is inappropriate for a couple to be completely alone if they are not married.  It leaves too many doors of opportunities open to cause us to sin, and make decisions that will forever scar our lives.  If you feel like the first example above, just remember that you’re helping a friend.  This whole third wheel thing has really turned into a pity party for us to wallow in.  Be a friend– help a friend.  I’m sure if the tables were turned, and you were the one with the boyfriend while your friend was just kind of sitting there, they’d be willing to help you out.  Don’t look at yourself as a third wheel, look at yourself as a true friend. John 15:13 – “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”  You may not be laying your life down, but you are doing your best to help someone else out.

Example #2:  This one is a little tricky, because I don’t get inside of the heads of every couple and see if they’re only inviting you because they feel sorry for you, but I do know that whenever I invite someone who is single on a “date”, it is not because I pity the person.  The way many couples look at the situation is like this:  Billy and Sally are boyfriend and girlfriend.  Susie is their friend.  Billy, Sally, and Susie were all friends before Billy and Sally were dating.  Billy and Sally still want to be friends with Susie, because Billy and Sally like Susie.  Do not feel as if you are only invited out of pity.  Feel honored that you are still looked at as a friend, no matter what the circumstances may be.

Example #3:  Spare tires are not worthless.  Spare tires are there in case one of the dependable tires blow up.  Get what I’m trying to say?  Sure, going out to dinner and feeling as if you are a referee is not the ideal way to spend a weekend, but hey, that’s not always the case anyhow.  I’m sure we’ve been in a situation before when a friend was hurting.  It’s not a good feeling, because many times you want to help your friend, but sending a smiley over a text isn’t always what does the trick.  You have to look at this in every perspective.  You’re there for a friend in their time of need, and no matter how you may feel, they will never forget it.  Although you may feel forgotten, you’re really not.  The Devil is always trying to put sad and unnecessary thoughts in our heads, making us feel as if we are worthless.  Don’t fall for His tricks!

There you have it, a quick cure of the I’m-A-Third-Wheel-And-Nobody-Loves-Me disease.  Jesus loves you, and if you have a {true friend}, they love you too.

For those of you who are in a relationship, please realize that if someone feels like a third wheel, it isn’t always their self-pity.  Remember, Proverbs 18:24a – “A man [that hath] friends must shew himself friendly…” 

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